let’s talk, bros
I’ve been pretty fucking unsettled by the responses that antivian received from some of y’all on twitter. I hear from other guys that they’re good guys who aren’t “like that” a pretty fair amount, and I see men tell women discussing sexism this all the time. This is really not an acceptable thing to do! I get it, your feelings are hurt. But I’m going to make a suggestion right now that I hope y’all are going to listen to if you really mean what you say about being a decent human being.
Next time you’re hanging out with your guy friends and someone says something sexist, address it. Stop bringing this issue to women who know that there are decent dudes out there. Stop telling the people who don’t need to hear it how special and wonderful you are and take your issue to the folks who need to hear it. Speak up. Whether you take your buddy aside and talk to him privately or do it right when it goes down, do something. Don’t just sit on your ass and whine about how you’re really great, do something about it. This is what actually being an “ally” is about. We have access to predominantly male spaces where some men say shit that ranges from questionable to downright awful, and instead of assuming that your friend is just kidding around because “he wouldn’t do something like that” when he jokes about sexual assault, talk to his ass about it.
If you don’t think that misogyny is a problem in the gaming community (like it is everywhere else, tbh) then you are being fed a big ol’ turd wrapped with a silver ribbon. I am going to break a couple of these down.
